Monday, September 26, 2016

Welcome to Our Adoption Story

We hope that those of you who are in the process of adopting will learn something from our adoption experiences and failures. We have shared what happened with our domestic infant adoption process as well as the important lessons we learned along the way. I can't believe how challenging the whole process was. It was an emotional roller coaster ride.
Worse than dating!!
Last year we decided to jump aboard the adoption roller coaster one more time. Since the chances for a "change of heart" are less with international adoption we decided to go that route. The 2 programs that fit us best are the Chinese (special needs) and Ethiopian programs. Even though "change of hearts" are more rare with international adoption, gov't politics can still interfere and end our hopes of having the family we've always dreamed of. But unfortunately that's how adoption works. There are always risks. With hope in our hearts, and fingers and toes crossed we are willing to take the risk one last time.

Anyway, if you have any questions or would like to post comments, please don't hesitate to ask or post. Our blog is automatically set up to show most recent dates first, so if you would prefer to read the story as it happened just start with the "We've Been Chosen" post from the list on your right.

Take care and have a great day!!!!


Travel Approval!!

The last week or two have been challenging to say the least.  The good news is we received our travel approval which means we are now in the process of requesting our consulate appointment in China.  Once we get that confirmed we can buy airfare and book our hotels.

The bad news is after 2 months of trying I just don't seem to be having any luck getting in touch with our guide in China.  Everyone else I've spoken with is having no issues, but we never get responses.  I've spoken with our agency and they said they would check, but again... we never heard back.  We are trying through a different email address to see if that will work, but if not we may be on our own.  I'm not sure what to do in that case.

Luckily there is a group I've been in contact with (other adoptive parents) who say that an app called Wechat is a great way to communicate with our guide.  So, if we don't hear back soon, then we'll try that.  The group was also able to recommend someone to help us get a care package to our little man.  So I'm now in the process of packaging up some stuff and sending it off to China.  Hopefully he'll get his photo albums and story book within the next 2 weeks or so. :)  Fingers crossed this all works out well.  We are little worried about the guide part, but hopefully it will all come together in the end.

Monday, September 5, 2016

National Visa Center Approval

Wow!!  That was a long wait!   So here's the latest update.   We applied for our little guy's visa right after signing the letter of acceptance.  We got approval on the 4th of August and were told our adoption letter would come in a couple of days.  At that point it was looking like we might be able to squeak in and go get our little man at the end of September.  YAY!!

Then 1 week went by, and 2 weeks went by, and 3 weeks went by...   In the meantime, I kept contacting the National Visa Center to find out where our letter was.  At first they would told me "it's in the mail", but when it never showed, and after the 3rd or 4th formal document request, they just quit responding to me altogether.  Finally after 3 weeks of trying my agency gave me a number to call.  After a a little while on terminal hold I found myself speaking with a less than pleasant gov't employee who acted like I was an imposition to her day.  Then she got extremely quiet and I quickly found out they had dropped the ball and never sent our letter.  Not only that, but they never even wrote it!!

Once the rep realized the NVC error, her personality changed and she became much more friendly as she frantically typed up a letter while we were talking.  She forwarded it to her supervisor for immediate approval and said we should hear back within 24 hours.  Now, after the last month of dealings with the NVC I was very skeptical, but the good news is we had our letter 2 hours later!!  The bad news is that it was 3 weeks late which means, no September travel for us.  Even if we could leave toward the end of September, we wouldn't be able to get everything in order and be home before the October holiday in China shuts everything down.  Such a bummer.

So now it looks like we might have to wait until November.  The holiday and huge trade shows in Guangzhou mean airfare and hotel costs triple during the month of October.

So for now, we are waiting for our travel approval.  Our paperwork should be walked over to the consulate in China this week.  Once that happens travel approval comes within a week or two.  Luckily after 3 change of hearts, and 3 other failed adoption opportunities, we are used to waiting.  It's been 10 years since we originally started our adoption journey, so waiting a couple more months won't be that big a deal.

Friday, July 15, 2016

It's Official!!

Wednesday we got our official letter of approval from the Chinese gov't.  It's official!!  This little man is ours!!  Today we met with our adoption agency and signed all the necessary paperwork to proceed.  While we are waiting for the rest of the legal/document/gov't stuff to happen, we will start the process of getting our own travel visas.  Then we can go get him!!  In the mean time we need to get some photo albums ready to send over so he can begin to learn who we are.  I'm so afraid of this falling through like the many tries before, but I'm really excited too.Ugh!!!  The back and forth is killing me.  LOL.  This is going to be one heck of an adventure!!

Tuesday, June 7, 2016

We Found a Match!!

Well, it's been a crazy few days.  Last Wednesday we got a call from our agency. We weren't completely sure we had an official "log in" date yet, but we had confirmation that our dossier had reached China safely.  So when they called I was expecting a "hey, you now have your login date" kind of call.  But instead we got the "we've got a great file for you to look at" call.  Holy Cow!!!That was so fast!!

So we've spent the last several days looking at the medical file, pictures, and videos. We've also had 5 different medical professionals take a peek too.  It appears this little guy is very, very small (like nowhere near the growth curve small), and a little bit developmentally delayed but the consensus is that once he's home he will recover those losses.  So we decided to take the plunge.  Last night we made the decision and sent off the rest of the paperwork, so it would be there first thing this morning.

Now we wait.  Once our paperwork is translated, it will be sent off to China.  At that point we will get the file "locked in" and he will be ours.  So, although it's a touch to early to celebrate yet, it looks like it is going to be a boy!!!  As my niece says, "fingers, eyes, and toes crossed that all goes well".